God’s message of identity:
God says, you are accepted
God says, you are my child
God says, you are loved
God says, you are somebody significant
God says, you do belong here
God says, I planned your birth
God says, you are not a mistake

God’s message of destiny:
I have a plan and purpose for your life
I placed you here to carry out that purpose
I have equipped you to carry out that purpose

To receive God’s message of identity you must receive the truth that you are His child and that you are a blessing from Him to others. Then you must position yourself as a blessing and begin to bless others. Blessing is God’s primary mechanism of imparting identity and establishing you into your purpose. A simple way to define blessing is to be received, to be accepted, to be regarded as one who is highly valued. When God blesses, receives and accepts us as His own, He empowers us to prosper. In the Hebrew, the word blessing means to be empowered to prosper.
The highest form of blessing we can receive from an earthly vessel is to be blessed by a parent. There is a God-given need on the inside of every one to hear the words “son/ or daughter, I love you, and I am proud of you.” This is a form of blessing that God intended to constantly flow through the parents to their children. Even adult children are blessed when their elderly parents affirm and bless them. God’s heart was to provide a safe place to impart identity into His children and that’s why He established the home. The home is to be a haven where children are loved and nurtured as their identity is being discovered.

Many parents do not realize that they hold a powerful key to the future lives of their children. It is the key of affirmation and blessing. This key fits perfectly in the key hole of every child’s heart. This key can unlock the unique potential that is in each child has. A parent’s affirmation and blessing can empower their children to prosper and thrive as adults. The affect of parental blessings can affect a person for many years in their marriage, business, or ministry.

What happens many times if parents do not act upon this God given responsibility is that their children will receive Satan’s lies. The lack of input and blessings from a parent will create emptiness or a vacuum that needs to be filled. Satan will then fill the emptiness with lies.

The Appointed Time For Blessings
1. The first appointed time for blessing is at birth. Since God blesses the covenant of marriage a child born into a home where the parents love one another is identified as a blessing, a joy and an expression of the love between the two parents. Even from birth a child will feel blessed to be loved and accepted as a valuable addition to the family. Being received as a blessing gives identity. If this appointed time for blessing did not occur in your life, ask God to redeem all that was lost.

2. The second appointed time for blessing is when you receive your name. In biblical days a name had such great significance that the parents would pray and seek God before announcing the name of their son or daughter. The name was announced and the baby was presented on the eighth day after birth. Many times a person had knowledge of their purpose in life through their name. Take Elijah for instance, his name means “Jehovah is God.” Elijah’s destiny was announced in his name, his purpose was to declare that Jehovah was the true God. His purpose and calling in life had been imparted into him through his parents. If this appointed time for blessing did not occur in your life, ask God to redeem all that was lost.

3. The third appointed time for blessing is at the age of thirteen when a boy becomes a young man and a girl becomes a young woman. In biblical times at the age of thirteen fathers spoke a special fathers blessing releasing his son into manhood. At this time a father would also bless his daughter and release her into womanhood. A fathers blessing is so important for a young man or woman to properly enter into adulthood. If this appointed time for blessing did not occur in your life, ask God to redeem all that was lost.

4. The fourth appointed time for blessing is when a young man or woman chooses a mate. When you get married a father blesses the marriage by being the best man. Or a father blesses his daughter when he gives her away. If this appointed time for blessing did not occur in your life, ask God to redeem all that was lost.

Redeeming The Time
If you were not blessed with a father’s blessing during these four appointed times only God can redeem the time and all that was lost. “Although my father and mother have forsaken me, yet the Lord will take me up (adopt me as his child.)” Psalm 27:10 amp
Ask God to take you up and redeem all that was lost, all those years when you did not receive your earthly fathers blessing. Ask Him to restore all the years the canker worm has eaten. As God redeems what was lost you must release those who did not bless you (parents or grandparents). Every one needs a fathers blessing and will struggle for years wondering, “Who am I,” but feeling they are past the age to ask. Now is the time to ask! Ask God for a Fathers Blessing, and He will bless you with all spiritual blessings.

A Fathers Blessing
God says in His word to ask and it shall be given to you. Ask and He will bless you, all He requires is for you make peace with your earthly father. As you make peace by forgiving and releasing your earthly father you will be able to fully receive your Heavenly Fathers blessings.

Making Peace
If your father is still alive you can make peace with him through forgiveness. Pray and forgive him for not blessing you. Once you have forgiven him, listen to what he has to say. He can still speak a powerful blessing even at an elderly age. No matter what age you are your earthly father’s words are still anointed with the blessings of God. I have personally watched and listened as an elderly father speaks words of affirmation to his son, but because these words are about thirty years too late the son could not even receive them. If he is unapproachable you can try writing a letter to express forgiveness and blessing. We reap what we sow, so in blessing your earthly father you will reap a powerful blessing from your Heavenly Father. You will experience a release and a blessing from God.

If your father is not alive you can still make peace through forgiveness. Pray and forgive him for not blessing you. You can also write a letter just to say what you would like to say, sharing your hurt and then extending forgiveness. Remember we reap what we sow.                    In blessing your earthly father you will reap a powerful blessing from your Heavenly Father.

Now expect to receive “all” the spiritual blessings of your true identity as “a child of God.”  Forgiveness positions you to receive all of God’s blessings. You are positioned to receive your full identity as “a child of God.”  Your identity as His child positions you to discover your purpose and your purpose positions you to fulfill your destiny as a “child of God.”

“Grace be to you from God our father and the Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed you with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places… Having predestined us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of His will.”  Ephesians 1:3-5